24 Ways to Initiate Dirty Talks for Long-Distance Relationships

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… You like eatin’ that hole out for me, don’t you? You like to feel a real big cock up that fuckin’ hole, don’t you? In the baroque flights of fancy of the most extravagant wordsmiths, dirty talk becomes a kind of found poetry. Again, how naughty or how vanilla should it be—that depends on you and only you. Of course, you can begin light and safe and, over time, find the right sexy words and use them more. So if the thought of it makes you cringe but you’d still like to give it a try, we’ve got you—here’s a beginner’s guide to dirty talk.

• If you’re still looking for inspiration or just want to make your dirty talk even dirtier (I don’t blame ya!), there are plenty of erotic texts, apps, and other resources out there to help get your ideas flowing.
• This type of dirty talk is just asking questions that encourage a partner to dirty talk back to you, whether by narrating their experience, offering a compliment, or relaying directions in response.
• Since you’ll have them thinking about it from that moment on, they’ll likely be increasingly turned on until the moment you make good on your promise.
• So, it looks like a lot of our followers feel turned on by dirty talk (in the right context) but feel awkward starting it or uncomfortably because they don’t feel they know what to do.
• For starters, dirty names are the perfect way to take a walk down the road of dirty talk.

“I never want you to stop, it feels so good.”

Like all skills, it takes practice and requires immersing yourself further in the world of erotic storytelling. That means not only engaging with the more structured narratives of written, visual, or audio erotica, but also borrowing ideas and language from the more improvised erotic narratives of roleplaying from the kink community. “At first for most people who talk dirty, it ends up being very basic stuff like you know, ‘That feels good, keep going, don’t stop,'” says Marin. Even the basics are more than enough to get you and your partner revved up.

• When you get to the part of the scene where ice will be used in the scenario, you can ask them to put the ice on them,” says Hauser.
• ’” And see how your partner’s response might turn up the heat.
• All you have to do is say exactly what you want, right?
• Learning how to talk dirty to a woman or someone with a vagina is no different than learning how to talk dirty to a man or someone with a penis, so see what feels most natural and exciting and go from there.
• Talking dirty is a thrilling way to enhance your sexual connection with your partner.

Read erotica aloud to your partner

A comment like that will probably push them over the edge and have them pouncing on you. Once you’re sold on the idea of dirty talk, it can be challenging to know where to begin. A shared bottle of wine can lubricate the conversation so you’re loose to share your more niche desires. Just do yourself a favor and cut yourself off before things get sloppy. Have a safe word or signal to let your partner know if they say something that makes you uncomfortable.

Check out the chapter dedicated to sending your man sexy dirty text messages here if you want an in-depth guide on this. If you’re both sitting on your sofa or just getting ready for bed or even walking through the woods alone, and you want to make your husband horny, then you should try some of these dirty talking lines on him. It’s just as much work to carry the conversation in the bedroom as it is during a date, so keep the dirty talk flowing before, during, and after sex. Vocalizing your pleasure guides the action, and delivers fantasies straight from your dreams.

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